After The Washington Post released a 2005 recording of Donald Trump being his most authentic self: a bigoted, misogynistic, demonic cankerworm, we were horrified to the core, but not surprised. While in a private conversation with Billy Bush on a tour bus, the father of two daughters and three sons describes how he:
- Aggressively tried to sleep with a married woman
- Can start kissing a woman without permission
- Can also just ‘grab them by the pussy’
Having revealed himself to be a horrific incubus dwelling within a hateful human suit, it remains to be seen whether his campaign will be able to recover, but if there's one thing we know about parasites, it's that they're difficult to destroy.
Enter actress-turned-film director, Amber Tamblyn.
In an incredibly intelligent and brave move, Amber decided to share with the world what it feels like to be on the receiving end of having your "pussy grabbed" by a monster and in doing so, has become the voice for the untold millions of women who know exactly how hellish this traumatic experience is.
Read on as we unpack her profoundly moving Instagram post.
"With the love and support of my husband, I've decided to share this publicly"
The star of The Sisterhood of Traveling Pants (2005) and The Ring (2002) turned to her husband, actor David Cross (Arrested Development) for support after hearing Donald Trump's vile comments. Having triggered the memory of a deeply traumatic experience, Amber sought David's opinion after deciding her story would be important to tell, not just for her, but for millions of women and men alike who will be participating in the 2016 U.S. election, and for anyone who has been a victim of sexual assault.
"A very long time ago I ended a long emotionally and physically abusive relationship with a man I had been with for some time."
Like a terrifyingly large number of us, Amber begins her Instagram post by stating that at some point in her past, she had been in an abusive relationship with a man for a significant amount of time. Having broken up with him, Amber and a group of her girlfriends went to a show in Hollywood, but her ex showed up at the show and spotted her in the crowd. The minute he saw her, he turned into a violent beast.
"He grabbed me under the skirt by my vagina - my pussy? - and lifted me up off the floor"
This absolutely horrific assault only proceeded to get worse. After literally grabbing Amber with one hand up her skirt, and one hand pulling her hair he proceeded to carry her in this manner all the way across the dance floor to the front door 'like a piece of trash.'
"In the scuffle he grabbed at my clothes, trying to hold onto me, screaming at me, and inadvertently ripped off my grandmother’s necklace"
With her friends running after them across the dance floor, Amber goes on to say how lucky she was that her abusive ex's brothers were also in the club. As they saw what was going on, they intervened on her behalf, although not before her ex tried to attack her, and in doing so, ripped her grandmothers necklace from her neck — an heirloom she never returned for.
"I had a hard time wearing jeans. I couldn't sleep without a pillow between my legs to create space"
In the aftermath of her assault, the memory of how she left the club remains a blur. What she does remember however is how her ex's violent attack caused her vagina to be so badly bruised that she was unable to wear jeans, or sleep without a pillow between her legs for over a week.
This is the result of what happens when people like Donald Trump act on their misogynistic beliefs which allow them to think it's ok to grab a woman by her 'pussy,' and it's beyond vile.
"I needed to tell a story. Enjoy the debates tonight."
Finishing her post by explaining how fearful she is that her parents will read this post and that the shame of that night still haunts her to this day she ironically adds "enjoy the debates tonight," which in light of reading her deeply harrowing story, is seemingly impossible to do without a colossal amount of rage.
But this rage is important. It is this rage which is going to give American citizens their best chance at defeating the parasitic maggot which threatens to be their future leader. Amber's post is not only courageous and honest, it is also vital in the battle against Trump, sexual abuse and the misogynistic rhetoric which he now embodies.
On behalf of women everywhere, thank you for your bravery Amber.