BySabina De Duonni, writer at
Sabina De Duonni

With the movie "Breathe In" coming out soon, from the same director who shot "Like Crazy", it got me thinking about movies that communicated insightful messages about relationship dynamics.

You know that feeling after watching a movie in which a life lesson has been played out so realistically just before your eyes, you have no choice but to be objective and realize the truth in it?

These movies share valuable lessons about relationships most of us are subject to at one point in time.

1. When Harry Met Sally (1989): Realising love takes experience

Everything can shift in an instant. It may just take us, as it did for Sally and Harry, a good 10 years to realize it. Most of us just have to go through various love cycles to really understand what it is that we really want.

Lesson: as time and experience progresses, you will find what you’re looking for.

2. The Kids Are All Right (2010): Know what you’ve Got

Do not get distracted by someone not for you, when you already have someone who is. Remember you have invested in something worthwhile and to not jeopardize that special someone for irrational misperceptions or impulses you will later regret.

Lesson: don’t drop a diamond just to gather stones.

3. 500 Days Of Summer (2009): Do not chase love 500

Summer made Tom believe she couldn’t give their relationship all she had because she simply didn’t believe in true love. He learned the hard way that he could not demand or expect from Summer, more than what she could and wanted to give him.

Lesson: if you have to chase love or affection, it isn’t worth having.

4. LONDON (2005): Don’t confuse sentimental passion with emotional dysfunction

Fights between lovers sometimes have an effect in which those high “make-up” moments trick you in believing your “love” has the power to persevere against the lows. Don’t be fooled; being in a love-hate emotional roller coaster ride with your partner is not sustainable

Lesson: distinguish between a natural and unhealthy relationship, focusing on what is good for you in the long run.

5. He’s Just Not That Into You (2009): Read the signals. he's just not that into you

The title is self-explanatory. If he’s not calling when you know he probably should have, the interest is much more one-sided than you would like to believe. You should not expect a three-course home cooked meal when you’ve only ever been brought home chinese take-out.

Lesson: Don’t put out silverware if you know you’ll only need chop sticks.

6. Silver Linings Playbook (2012): The person for you is in your future

The recollections of old memories with lost lovers makes it hard to see what is right in front of you. We tend to hold on to past love believing it can be revived.

Lesson: Don’t recycle love. Look ahead. Someone special might just be right in front of you.

9. Perks of Being a Wallflower (2012): Seek what you deserve

It just so happens that sometimes we find ourselves with someone who is less than ideal, sometimes far from it. With a little help from Charlie, Sam realises that the person she is with appreciates her far less than many others would, and should.

Lesson: Know your worth, seek what you deserve. What other movies share an eye-opening lesson about relationship dynamics?

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