Like many wholesome Disney stars, Selena Gomez chose to wear a purity ring to symbolize her desire to wait to have sex until marriage when she was a mere tween, but now the 23-year-old has been refreshingly candid about her decision to remove the 'true love waits' symbol as an adult.
Gomez told The Sunday Times that she isn't embarrassed about wearing the ring to begin with, or the fact that she decided that the whole purity pledge thing wasn't for her, and explained that she saw the whole thing as an important part of growing up. She told interviewers that:
"I’m not embarrassed to say that. I’m also not embarrassed to say that the ring has come off. I got it when I was 13 and I respect so much what it represented, but it isn’t for everyone."
Although her relationship with Justin Bieber has been hugely controversial, both from 'fans' on the Selena and Justin camp (thanks in part, due to the fact Selena revoked her purity ring while dating the star), Gomez has no regrets about dating the 21-year-old on and off for three years, she explained:
"I didn’t think I was doing anything bad by falling in love. There’s such an emphasis on people being the perfect thing and then destroying them because it’s good press. Also throw in the fact that you are a teenager — it makes it more difficult."
Anyone who has been swept along by the very real passion and all consuming adoration they felt for their first love will totally understand what Selena is talking about, and I think it's great that she has been so candid about abandoning her purity pledge.
A lot of young people don't manage to fulfill promises they have made when it comes to sex before marriage, and I can only imagine that the shame that goes with that has the potential to be soul destroying. Hopefully Selena's words will help them to stop beating themselves up about it.