Selena Gomez seems to be having quite a rough time of it lately.
For one, only last week, the 23-year-old 'Revival' singer openly admitted to undergoing chemotherapy for lupus, a chronic, auto-immune disease that has been ravaging her body for years. Speaking to Billboard, the young starlet said:
"I was diagnosed with lupus, and I’ve been through chemotherapy. That’s what my break was really about. I could’ve had a stroke. I wanted so badly to say, ‘You guys have no idea. I’m in chemotherapy. You’re assholes.' I locked myself away until I was confident and comfortable again."
Not only has Selena had to defend her time out of the limelight recently, but she has also had to fight back against scathing comments in the press regarding her past relationships.
In particular, the ex-Disney star has referred to how the bullying tabloids have been manipulating stories about her and her on/off ex-boyfriend Justin Bieber, who she famously started dating back in 2011, until their very public breakup in 2014.
In her most recent interview, during her stunning photoshoot with Refinery29, Selena urged the press to put all the rumors and speculation to rest. Because at this point, just as she has closed that chapter of her life, she rightfully thinks that everyone else should leave it alone and move on too. The startled said:
"At this point, there is no anger. There's closure in a very good, healthy way. We’ve seen each other. I'm always encouraging and I am proud of his journey. I think people are making it out to be something that is more tragic than it really was. We grew up together. We both made mistakes. That's it."
And when asked whether her most recent song 'Same Old Love' was a nod towards her relationship with Justin, she graciously replied:
"You can try to work on things and fix them, but at the end of the day, you have to accept what is in front of you, and that's sometimes hard to do [...] I think there are people who have been in my life who are seasonal. Even people who I have dated have been just that. It's part of growing up."
"I think people really wanted to see me fail"
Understandably, growing up and experiencing first love under the unflinching glares of the paparazzi must have been a traumatic experience. And Selena is the first to admit that she has found it "uncomfortable and scary" to have to deal with such a public breakup. But shockingly, the worst thing for her to to see was the way that people reacted to her during the entire process. Selena revealed:
"The public perception of me was unfair and very invasive. I was trying to figure out all my own stuff in my personal life while everybody had an opinion. I think people really wanted to see me fail. I'd sit down in an interview and get the most harshly asked questions. Of course I got my heart broken. Of course I was p***ed about it. There, everybody has it. I was so disappointed, because I never wanted my career to be a tabloid story."
Thankfully, and in testament to her passionate determination and drive, Selena is anything but that.
Today, not only is she one of the hottest commodities in the entertainment business, a bonafide fashionista, a UN Ambassador, and a wildly successful music artist, but she's also remained a genuinely nice person. I strongly stand by the fact that she hasn't been given enough credit for that in an industry full of spoiled and arrogant personalities.
At the end of the day, Selena's just like you and me, a person who has admitted to navigating complex past relationships and is struggling with all the curveballs that life has thrown at her.
So, why don't we all just let her do her thing and respect her for the person that she is? It's what she wants and let's face it, what we would probably want for ourselves too.