In high school, I went through a chubby phase, but then I noticed a shift in my body. I began to exercise more, and I also ate a lot more. I am 5'2" and back then I was 110 lbs. I was a garbage disposal, who ate everyone's leftovers and amazed friends, even my male friends, with how much I could eat.
Then, this lovely phenomenon known as adulthood hit and I gained five pounds. Then ten. Then fifteen! I freaked out, but I felt that I had become so obsessed with numbers. My weight would yo-yo, and I felt depressed about how my hips stuck out, or when my belly was a little more flabby than I would have liked.
I wish I could have told my younger self to just relax and be grateful that I have two legs that can walk, two arms that can give hugs, and a belly that enjoys explosive laughter. I am a good 120 pounds, and whereas that used to depress me, I feel the best when I eat veggies and fruits, have a chocolate chip cookie here and there, and get some fun exercising in a few times a week.
We forget that this common tale also happens to celebrities too, who are placed under the microscope so much more than we are, and whose every move is judged my millions of people. I can't even picture that kind of pressure.
Talented, and might I add, beautiful actress Claire Danes, is no different when it comes to the woes of body image, but she has learned to rise above and love herself.
Danes sat with Allure and discussed how ingrained the ideology of being tiny and taking up less space makes you more attractive and desired.
"It's OK to want to look and feel your best. It's OK to work at being attractive, whatever that means to you. And it's also OK to not expect to be defined by that. It's OK to be powerful in every way: to be big, to take up space. To breathe and thrive."
Danes mentions how focusing on perfecting her craft helps her focus less on beauty and more on what actually counts.
"I'm very vain about my performance. I want to give as honest a performance as I can. But I'm not so worried about being regarded as beautiful when I'm playing a character."
Danes also brought up the painful truth about females' bodies being commented on more than her male counterparts. She has noticed that many women she knows that she considers the most beautiful women on the planet also have doubts and insecurities.
By refraining from comparing herself to her friends and focusing on loving her own unique beauty, Danes reminds herself that all in all, she's "good."
Honey, I might say you are more than good! I think we all are more than good.