I often find that I am my biggest critic. I used to be much harsher on myself than I was on other people, or that they were about me. I used to judge myself and hold myself to unnecessary standards. I have since learned to let go and love myself, because why shouldn't I?
It seems like all humans do this in one way or another, and for celebrities, it isn't any different. In fact, I'd say it's worse, as you have millions of people making comments about your hair, clothes, body, face, etc.
That constant steam of critique would hurt even the strongest of human beings. Unfortunately, Reid Ewing of Modern Family experienced a body dysmorphic disorder which wasn't addressed properly, causing him to undergo countless cosmetic procedures which he didn't even need in the first place.
At the tender age of 19, Ewing got his first procedure done after moving to LA to become an actor. With the wish to look more like Brad Pitt, Ewing got cheek implants - but they didn't come out the way he thought they would.
"I woke up screaming my head off from pain, with tears streaming down my face."
After having to wear a full face mask for a few weeks, Ewing finally removed the bandages, to discover a very swollen face. After some more time for healing, he realized that the surgery hadn't gone as planned, as he still disliked his look.
"The lower half of my cheeks were as hollow as a corpse's. I went back to the doctor several times in a frenzy, but he kept refusing to operate on me for another six months, saying I would eventually get used to the change. I couldn't let anyone see me like this, so I stayed in complete isolation."
To fix this issue, Ewing then found another doctor who was willing to do another procedure to "fix" the mistakes of the first one.
"The next one I found was even less qualified, but I didn't care; I just wanted out of my situation," he wrote. "I told him my story, and he suggested I get a chin implant. I asked if it would repair my sunken-in face, and he said I would be so happy with my looks it wouldn't matter to me."
Ewing came to discover that the more surgery he had, the more he thought he had something to fix. The most important and horrific factor to point out is that the doctors never asked about his history, which included eating disorders and cases of OCD in his family. Not one doctor suggested that Ewing seek advice with a psychologist or warn him about the perils of addiction.
"Before seeking to change your face, you should question whether it is your mind that needs fixing. It's a horrible hobby, and it will eat away at you until you have lost all self-esteem and joy. I wish I could go back and undo all the surgeries. Now I can see that I was fine to begin with and didn't need the surgeries after all."
I am so happy to hear that Ewing knows how handsome he is, and how we care so much more about his awesome talents in acting. He has a lot to offer, and no amount of plastic surgery is needed for someone who already has incredible star quality.
Thanks for spreading the message about loving yourself, Reid, as we all need reminders every once in a while.