A long time ago I stumbled upon this website. At first, I thought it to be another site that acts as an outlet for the geeks of the world to post about their love of filmography in all its facets. Well, for all intents and purposes, it is. However, it is also a community. It is also a family. If families are to survive they should function as a well oiled machine, with each internal section depending on another and no one section being able to overpower another - even if that cog itself is bigger. Lately, I have noticed that there are authors on this site who find joy or humor in deconstructing others' articles. On a site filled with so many geeks and writers, both subgroups of the world that have received stigma and bullying, I find it hard to believe that such people would turn on their own kind like piranhas.
I have never been able to shake bullies off my back. They like to stick to it like they are the T-Rex and I am Littlefoot's mother from the Land Before Time. I can only assume that bullies do this as a way of making others fear them. Through fear, one can gain power which can mean power over others. I know, I sound like I'm reciting an amalgamation of the Sith Code and the Yellow Lantern Oath, but there's a method to my madness.
Thus, you, as possible victims of bullying yourselves, can understand why Moviepilot should act as a safe haven, a light over at the Frankenstein Place or a Jedi Temple for all nerds, geeks, authors etc. If you have already begun to get some kind of vibe from me that reminds you of a seven step program, I apologize. No, this is not an easy seven step process to help young, old, middle aged, time lord, hobbit, vampire hunter authors out there. This is to merely raise the issue, and to pose questions and possible answers to serve as logical responses, as to why there are authors out there who insist on commenting with the simple purpose in mind of being hurtful.
I once was forced to speak at a LGBT+ Pride event in Nashville. I was supposed to be representing my youth group(s) on a stage in front of ten thousand people. Yes, I had known that I would be going up there and that my entire group would be speaking, but I was later told that it would only be a friend of mine and myself who would be the ones speaking. I was also told that I was going first. The process of preparing something to say in about ten minutes time was about as easy as doing the Kessel Run in 12 Parsecs. However, I emerged, slightly embarrassed, shaking, and a little nauseous, but with this sense that I had just done something that is usually only done by other people on TV. Although I had not been representing a famous organization or charity, I had been professional in all aspects, as I have been told. To be perfectly honest I think I went into autopilot mode.
Now, you may be thinking that this extremely and remotely relatable tale has something to do with how I felt afterwards. You are most likely thinking that there is a moral lesson to be found in how I felt afterwards. No, there is not. To this day, I still shake before and after I have to speak, present or play an instrument alone in front of others, and I have no positive prize from this experience except for I can now claim that I have spoken at Pride and after Pride, I got recognized at a Books-A-Million by a barista.
No, the real lesson to be learnt from this story is what I did in the 10 minutes before I went on stage. I had to prepare a rough draft of what I would say in my head. This careful process, this nitpicking of words, is what every author should do before responding to a comment on one of your posts.
Yes, the hypothetical person who has hypothetically commented probably deserves a good talking to, and a good slap with a plastic spatula as well, but it is our duty as the Keepers of Sacred and Fictitious Knowledge, the Guardians of the Fictional Galaxies, the Word Avengers, the Typing Justice Leagues, the Authors of Moviepilot, to remain the constructively criticizing smart asses we are. Any comment you make needs to be helpful in some form or facet.
I am not the best person to be writing this. There have been occasions in the past where I have told mean spirited commentators to "throw their keyboards out the window because they are not doing any good with it." This was not in defense of my own work but someone else's. It was also on YouTube.
I am aware of the fact that me authoring this, based on what I have just typed, is quite hypocritical. I know this very well. However, if not I then whom? If not now, then when? Yes, that is based on a quote.
"The first step to solving any problem is recognizing there is one."
Why should authors not be rude in their responses? Because rudeness should be rejected, especially amongst a community of geeks. I wanted to write this to explain why we, as Moviepilot authors, should always keep, continue, and maintain a certain level of professionalism.
The moment we forget this rule is the moment we become like the people who pushed us down with their fists - except we would be doing it to others with our words.
In the end, the only people alongside you are your friends.