This post will be a bit different from what I have done before on Moviepilot. It will be more personal than anything. Yes, it will still involve films. But, it will involve films comparing the events to my life and what I believe in. Here we go. Let's unravel the reels and wade into the chapters of my life through the beautiful art of film.
The Perks of Being a Wallflower
Never have I ever related so much to a character as much as I do with Charlie from The Perks of Being a Wallflower. I just see myself in him somehow and it's not that easy to explain. Well, yes it is. We do not fit in with today's society. Just like the gif above, sometimes, I feel unnoticed in a world that is full of stars. But, that is okay with me. Just like Charlie, I have become comfortable with not being like everyone else and being in my own society, which is the only one that truly matters. The ending is truly dramatic and that also sparked a similarity. Although my aunt did not have an attraction for me like Charlie's aunt did in the film, I felt a highly emotional impact on my life when my aunt passed away. It took a toll on me just like Charlie and it shows how much a loss in the family can affect one's emotional stance.
So I guess we are who we are for a lot of reasons. And maybe we'll never know most of them.- The Perks of Being a Wallflower
Pay It Forward
This film may not be very well known but it connects to who I am for many reasons. For one, many people believed I looked like Haley Joel Osment growing up. I never saw it but my mother always did and her opinion is the only one that truly counts. But, the point I will be referring to is my vision to do something for the world before I die. Whether people like it or not, there is something to change about yourself or your actions. And refusing to change one small aspect about yourself is just losing, as the quote above says. Even if doing something for the world is small like a volunteer task or big like running for president, changing the world is something everyone should aspire to do. The world could always use a little change and I just hope people will remember what I did more than who I was, just like Osment's character did before he met his demise in the film.
Lilo & Stitch
Oh yes, a Disney film makes my list. There is one hugely memorable quote in the film that sparks up this part of my post.
Ohana means family and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.- Lilo & Stitch
Family is a huge part of who I am. My parents, my brothers and sisters, my nieces and nephews, and most importantly, my boyfriend, Cody, make up who I am. Each and every one of them helps me be who I am. Cody has helped a lot in helping me adapt to who I am. For example, I have changed my "Charlie" ways in a way where I am more outspoken and can speak up for myself rather than stay quiet. Although I wish the part of me that relates to the film is that I owned a little blue alien friend, it's not that crazy. The simple term is family and that makes up almost 90% of my inner self.
Speaking of Cody, he is a huge part of what defines me. Shelter may not be well known but it is a movie about having a love that seems forbidden yet you don't care. Shelter is about two males who seek love in each other despite what their families believe. Before I came out, I believed being gay was a sin. It was an abomination. My family did not seem to support the LGBT community and society did not as well. In those dark times, I wished I was not alive. I wish I could have woken up and magically become a heterosexual male. But, that was not possible. I had to live with my fear and that was to be more different than I already was. What helped me face my fears was a boyfriend who is more than just a boyfriend but is a partner. Cody showed me it is okay to face your fears and be who you are. Despite my family's disapproval at first, I still came out instead of hiding in fear of who I truly am. Cody is just there to hold my hand and make me feel not alone in a battle that became better, not just with my family but in the world.
Stand By Me
Before I begin, Stand By Me is one of my favorite films. Ever. The film's message of friendship is inspiring and that was what I abided by growing up. Going through elementary school and middle school, I was surrounded by amazing people who stuck by me through every situation. I one time had friends message a girl one-hundred and twenty times when she denied my request to be my valentine in the eighth grade. But, as the film's plot goes, the value of friendship diminishes, as it did when I entered high school. Just like the end of the film, my friends were distant and just were not around as much as I would have liked. They are still some of the best friends I have ever had but they are no longer a phone call away. Instead of hanging out regularly, they are more like friends that say "Let's hang out!" more times than we actually physically hang out. R.I.P to those old elementary school friendships.
The Truman Show
This may be my favorite Jim Carrey flick ever. It is so clever and I hope to own it on DVD some day to be able to rewatch it whenever I want. Carrey plays a boring individual who has adapted to what society wants him to be. He lives in a television show that is practically scripted to what he is supposed to do and say everyday. And that is what I feel like sometimes. I feel like I run on a script that shows me how to act, what to say, and how to feel. We shouldn't live in a world where we feel afraid to act like ourselves. Although I feel like I have grown since being like Truman, there are times I still try to fit into society rather than be myself which is a problem that is holding me back. If anyone sees me act out, they look at me like I am sick which is what is truly wrong with today's world.
Of course, I included a Batman film. I love Batman and every aspect of the character. But, there's reasoning behind madness. Batman has showed me that you do not need powers to be a hero. It is "what you do that defines you." Do not let your appearance be someone's impression of you, let it be a specific action you complete. I want to help the world but I know I do not need to hide behind powers to show what I can do. I just need to be myself and help out in any way I can. I need to be my own hero and stop relying on others to save me.
Into the Wild
Last but not least, I will be including a film about the important theme of adventure. Adventure is key to unlocking all of life's secrets. There is one quote that truly inspires me to be a better person and it is as follows:
...so many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservation, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more damaging to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future. The very basic core of a man's living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day, to have a new and different sun. - Into the Wild
That quote is what everyone should live by. There is nothing more terrifying to me than being stuck in one place for the rest of my life. I do not want to have the same job forever. I am a huge fan of change. I suppose that is where my adventurous spirit comes from. While a secure future is good for financial reasoning, I would rather not know how to get there. In the great words of Nicki Minaj, everybody dies but not everybody lives. Never feel too secure. Expect the unexpected. And love adventure. Do not be afraid of expanding your horizons. Those are the words I choose to live by until the day I croak.
I hope you all enjoyed this little personal piece and have gotten to better know me as a writer and a person. Please do not be afraid to comment which movies would define you below!