Kids can be real assholes to one another with nasty actions like name-calling, pushing in the playground and hair-pulling, and they usually they have no idea what damage they're causing.
One of the stars of '90s classic Sister, Sister Tamera Mowry-Housley got emotional in a teaser for this week's The Real when telling how she carried around a particularly cruel insult she'd received aged 16 for years. She described:
"My sister and I used to read every fan mail because we just love our fans that much. And we used to sign the autographs... It wasn't pre-made. So I can remember reading this stupid letter when this person called me ugly and said I was the 'ugly and goofy twin'.
"And for years, I made an agreement with that stupid statement. And I carried it around with me for years. I thought I was ugly and I thought I was goofy."
However Tamera, now a model, isn't the kinda girl who carries that kinda burden forever. One day after she'd gotten upset her best friend gave her some advice that resonates for her today, advice that we can all learn from:
"My amazing best friend said: 'You are not 16 years old anymore. You do not need to listen to that insecurity in your head anymore. You do not let other people define who you are.'
"So, to this day, when I read negative comments like that, I say, 'I do not have to make an agreement with that. Your words and you — who I don't even know... I'm not going to give you power over who I am. I know who I am and you don't define me. I define me."
I think I just shed a tear. Go Tamera!
Tamera and Tia Mowry are the two 37-year-old identical twins who starred in Sister, Sister from 1994 - 1999. The story follows their characters, Tamera Campbell and Tia Landry, who are separated at birth for adoption but find one another 14 years later. They may look the same, but no one defines either of them now!
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Do you have any words of support for the victims of bullies?
Source: The Real